My mom was taken in an instant. She had no headaches, nothing that would have led any of us to believe she would not be here with us today. My mom had just turned 53 in August and just celebrated her 34th anniversary to my father on Sept 10th. This horrible event happened on Sept 21, 2003 at 12:15 in the morning.
My father called me at home and told me my mom was not breathing and he thought she had just had a heart attack. He tried CPR on her and then the paramedics arrived and put a breathing tube down her throat. At the moment it was thought it was a heart attack which it was since that is what happens I guess after a brain aneursym . They got her to the hospital and did a CAT scan which showed a massive bleed in the bottom of the brain stem. The neurosurgeon was at the hospital in an hour and just by looking at the scan told us he felt she was already brain dead.
We had to wait until the morning so they could do an actual brain scan for activity to see if there was any hope. I already had lost hope. The person lying there did not seem like my mother. My mother was a happy lively person and this was just not her! They came back in the morning after they ran the test and told us that she was indeed brain dead. The machines had been keeping her alive this whole time and now we had to make the decision of what we wanted to do as far as organ donation. My father, sister and I decided to donate the organs that she could which ended up being her liver and her kidneys.
I am hoping we get to meet the recipients one of these days. We know that they are all doing good presently.
My family has never really experienced a death. This was just too soon for us to have it happen. I worry about my father the most. My mom and him were great together. Even though they both worked they took time to enjoy each other's company by traveling and just being together. I am thankful that he will have those many memories with her. Me, I saw her Saturday and try to relive those moments over and over in my mind but it seems hard to remember right now.
I know she wants us to go on and lead happy lives but right now it seems very difficult to be just that, happy.
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