Alton Michael Raynor
We Too Were Touched By Aneurisms
24 June 2005
I came across this website and have been reading the stories.
We too were touched by aneurisms but our story did not have the happy ending that some of the others did. My son, Alton, suffered a subarachnoid hemorrhage in October 2002 at the age of 26. He was found semiconscious in his home by his fiancée. I had telephoned him a few times earlier in the day and just assumed he was out. She somehow managed to get him into her car and rushed him to the emergency.
They sent him for a scan and it showed blood on the brain and immediately rushed him by ambulance to the larger hospital (30 minutes away) where they specialize in head trauma. He spent 2 weeks in hospital and recovered, quite miraculously as the doctors said he hit a 5% "window" whereas it was a vein that burst in his brain, rather than an artery and no surgery was required. He eventually was able to return to work after 4 months recovery time at home.
He was married in October 2004 and 9 weeks later, suffered a massive intracerebral bleed due to a ruptured middle cerebral artery aneurysm. He collapsed in his driveway and was found by his wife (our daughter-in-law). He was dead before the paramedics arrived. I (his mom) had planned a birthday celebration dinner for him that afternoon, and they were just about to come over when his wife returned home to pick him up and found him there... He had just turned 29 four days before.
We as a family unit made the decision the next day to donate 5 of his organs, hopefully that has enabled others to live on.
We are still reeling from the effects of this tragedy, our lives will never be the same again. I have two other children, one of whom was married in January (the month following my son's death), as it was too late to cancel everything. However, in a way it was a blessing as it kept us busy and took our minds off our problems to a degree. My sons were to be best men for each other at their weddings. My husband stood in for my son at the second wedding and it was a very emotional time.
Always remember that although at times things seem to be bleak, life is very precious, and we should embrace each day as it comes...it is truly a gift.
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