MARIO JOSE PULGARIN
8 February 2005
My baby brother Mario Jose Pulgarin was determined to be successful. He wanted to be a Nascar engineer so he signed up UTI a school about three hours away from home. He had to move to Potstown, Pa from Brooklyn, New York. This was a huge change for the family. We were all dreading it that our baby brother was moving out and moving so far away. Three hours didn't seem so far but to us it did. Mario was the baby of the family and he always had someone to take care of him.
He decided to go to school in January 2004 and to celebrate we went on a cruise in Auguste of 2004. The cruise was a graduation gift from my parents and everything seem to fall at the right time. I went on the cruise with my brother, my best friend, my boyfriend and his family for 10 days and had he had greatest time. This was actually the first vacation he was going on without my parents, so he was looking forward to it. Two months before the cruise he'd call me almost every other day asking me when we were leaving for the cruise. These are the memories I will treasure the most. He came back telling everyone about the trip he took.
The day finally came that he was leaving and my sister came up with the idea off surprising him with a going away party. My brother Duvan brought him over to my house and we were successful in surprising him with all his closest friends and family. I was so proud of him but at the same time sad the he was going to be alone and so far away. What brought us comfort was that we new he'd be coming home on most weekends.
After two months in school Mario had adjusted just fine. My mother never did get use to saying goodbye to him on Sundays. He talked about the people at school and the instructors. He was happy though he did find it difficult at first because he was bored a lot and wanted to work part-time so that he didn't have to depend on the family for support. My dad just wanted him to concentrate in school and do his best. My dad was very proud of him and you could see it in his eyes, Mario was taking after his dad.
On December 20, 2004 the family was informed that my brother was found dead in his apartment. Evidently he had passed Friday, Dec. 17, 2004. We were not expecting him to coming home that weekend because he has just started working and was planning on coming home for the holidays. Even though none of us were able to get in touch with him, we didn't think much of it. His friends notified the school because when they didn't see him in school Monday and hadn't spoken to him all weekend they new something had to be terribly wrong. The apt. Manager happened to work at my brother's school so she went to check his apartment and found him there. She said he looked peaceful. He was laying down in front of the television in his pj's. He looked like he had just fallen asleep. We found out that he had a brain aneuryidm and that there was nothing that we would of benn able to do even if it was caught earlier. Basically it was inopearable. What hurts me the most and I think my family was that he was alone. It's been very difficult as he is the first to pass that is the closest to the family and friends. This is all so hard but we have gotten closer. Why haven't been able to accept it and trying to find a place were we can go as family to cope with this.
I just felt I had to share my brothers happy memories and that he will not ever be forgotten. Through the services I also learned a lot about him. For example the good deeds that he did that we never knew about. Our family was comforted by friends and listened to stories about him, we were just amazed. We always knew he had a good heart and one thing we all agreed on was that he never complained about anything. He was always down to do whatever we all planned to do be it going to the city or the movies. My baby brother was a good kid he didn't have a bad bone in him. Mario Jose Pulgarin WILL FOREVER BE IN OF HEARTS.
Update: 1 June 2005
June 2, 2005 would of been my baby brothers' 21st b-day. It is still so hard and painful to believe that he isn't here to celebrate it and that it's been 6 months that he passed. I'd give anything to be able to give him a hug and kiss him up and tell him HAPPY 21st BIRTHDAY MARIO !!! WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH.
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