29 July 2004
I always use to say many times to my husband (Frank) we should thank god for giving us two healthy children, our 18 year old daughter Mandy, and our 21 year old son George. So we thought. Until the night of June 7, 2004.
Three days after my daughters prom, around 8:15 pm, she was starting her first class of karate and was very excited about it. She always took care about looking good and was active in anything physical. She played soccer since she was 8. She also was in kick-boxing for 2 years and decided to start something different. She left the house around 8 pm and as she was leaving she said, "Mom bye I'll see you in an hour". Well those were the last words that my daughter ever said to me.
Around 9:28pm I got a phone call from her instructor telling me that Mandy was complaining of a bad headache and that she was also throwing up and she was unable to drive home. My first thought was that maybe she just did too much on her first day. Mandy always gave her all in everything that she did. So I called my son who was at his girlfriends house to be outside and that I would pick him up so that he could drive Mandy's car home. His girlfriend lived only three streets away from our home.
When we arrived to the karate studio which was about 5 minutes away I knew that something was terribly wrong. She was sitting in the back room with vomit all over the front of her karate uniform and in her long brown hair. Her right side was paralyzed and she was not responding (her eyes were open) and she could not speak. I asked the instructor if anyone had called 911 and his response was "We were waiting for to get here first." I then asked him what if I was not home would you have called then. His answer - he did not even respond-he turned and walked away.
We took her to the nearest hospital and then had her transported to what we thought was a better hospital (trauma center). Her doctor told us that he wanted to wait a week so that the swelling would go down and then he would do the surgery. At around 8:30 pm she threw up again and the wanted to take her down and do another cat-scan. Later the doctor tells us that he sees no change and that everything is ok. So we ask him for copies of Mandys films and reports so that we could get a second opinion. He was not too happy about that request. He handed me the films and told me to take them to who ever I wanted. I asked him if these were copies and he told me YES. This was 9:30pm on Tuesday night-June 8.
At that time I gave my brother the "copies of the films so that he could take them to a friend of his who is a nerosurgeon to give us a second opinion. Around 12pm I called the hospital to see how she was since they would not let us sleep there. They told me she was ok. About 1:10am Wednesday we get a phone call telling me that Mandy has taked a turn for the worse and that they needed consent to do emergency surgery. I said do what ever needs to be done and that we were on are way. Thats when the doctor said to me "Where are the copies of the films that I gave you" I replied that I did not have them that my brother had taken them to get a second opinion and he then started to yell at me to call my brother and to get those films to him as soon as possible because he needed them.
The million dollar question till the day I die will always be-Where those films copies or ORIGINALS. And did he need those films to do the emergency surgery because he did not have any films to compare the films to when he did the last cat-scan at 12:30am Wednesday.
At 2am Wednesday my beautiful daughter was pronounced brain dead. And on Friday June 11,2004 at 10:03am she passed away. She was surronded by her aunts and uncles,boyfriend, my husband and I,her brother and many friends and family who loved her. She will be greatly missed. But she will stay alive in our memories and in our hearts.
She was to attend college in the fall for criminal justice and her dream was to be a judge. She was an Honor Roll Student all through high school. She was loved by many. I talk about her daily and as they say GOD ALWAYS TAKES THE BEST. She is an Angel. I love her and miss her dearly.
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